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Gadfly |
exacxtly like mr. apple* i dare not complain about a thing because he never forgets a scolding. *who hasn't touched the washer or dryer in 11 years | |||
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What Life? |
SM needs a hair cut I think we're going in the morning. The boys would have gone today but I was sad because I had to stay home and do homework, SM Sr said well the family photographer should come along so we'll go tomorrow I don't have those chemicals but I do have lots and lots of baked goods . Doug - if you're ever in the area I'll make doughnuts just for you Jodi - It was sooo hard to not eat any cookie dough!! But I wasn't gonna get yelled at again so I didn't scrap the bowl clean I bet it'll be much harder when we're working with chocolate later this class! PJ - My relationship with his mom.....we prefer to keep the peace by not talking. I've given him some nudgings and if they don't work I might ask my mom to send some nudgings | |||
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Unrepentant Dork Gadfly |
Finding a babysitter: Walk into the local high school office and ask if they could recommend someone. If you're going to be there while the babysitter is there, you might even want to consider middle schoolers. They're cheaper, and usually so concerned that they do everything right that they're super-cautious. Some major metro areas actually have agencies where you can find babysitters, but they tend to be more pricey. | |||
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"One half of me is a hopeless romantic, the other half is so damn realistic." Beatification Candidate |
We called the contact for the career center at our High School. It was listed on their web site. Then we interviewed the kids and called their references. It was easier for us, because we've been here a while, so it turned out we knew people who knew the girls. They weren't really that responsible--a lot of talking on the phone and not showing up stuff, but if you'll be in the house and they are just a mother's helper it might not be so bad. I once got some advice that I never took--hire somebody to take care of the house--that frees you up to take care of your own kid. But me, I needed a break sometimes. | |||
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Unrepentant Dork Gadfly |
One more thing - something I learned from my ill-fated marriage: When (most) women say, "Clean the living room" they mean pick up the clutter, vacuum, dust, etc etc. When (most) men hear, "Clean the living room" they think you mean pick up the clutter. So when you come home and freak out because they didn't clean the living room... I eventually started going with, "Could you please clean the living room, and vacuum the carpet and dust?" Much better results. | |||
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What Life? |
It meight even work for a while until the prof wises up... and deliberately mismarks some components so you get a different reading than you would get from performing a numerical analysis of the system. oops... See, us geezers still have a trick or two up our sleeves... As for running an analysis of the recipie, there are too many variables in the mix (baaad pun there) for an analysis to predict the outcome. (Translation: You're stuck making the cookies...) | |||
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Has Achieved Nirvana |
In my relationships, I have not been ALLOWED to touch the washer or dryer. I do it wrong, apparently, and therefore must be kept away for fear of injuring myself or the clothing. It must be so, for a succession of women have affirmatively told me to keep my nose OUT of the laundry. Yet somehow, when I am not in a relationship, I manage not to commit suicide by washer-dryer and the clothes seem to survive the experience. | |||
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Has Achieved Nirvana |
Fixed it for you. Seriously, though, you might notice the lack of a "please" in the supposed request, and the fact that you said "say" instead of "ask". I sense something Freudian there, because the lack of a please is what always gets my back up about the "request". | |||
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Unrepentant Dork Gadfly |
Quirt - stop being such a lawyer. Yes, I say please. And I do ask, as opposed to tell. But here's a question for you: How many men do anything but expect their wives to do the housework/care for the children as a matter of course? They exist, but they're few and far between. So why do we have to ask, as if the husband is doing us a favour? I do ask, but I'm just saying. (This goes along with my rant about husbands who say they have to "babysit" their kids. No. You have to be a parent, you silly git.) | |||
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Has Achieved Nirvana |
Some don't. And it isn't lawyering for me. Maybe I'm oversensitive, or maybe I'm extrapolating unfairly from my own experiences, but I don't like being treated like part of the household staff, instead of as a partner.
People might be able to nail me on general household laziness, but I don't think this one would apply to me. | |||
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Unrepentant Dork Gadfly |
that's why I said "most". And for the record, my first "clean the living room" statements were phrases - not how I would have worded it. You'll notice that my actual full sentence contained both a "please" and a "request". edit: Re: the "household staff" - i'll go back to my thought about the default housekeeper/baby watcher is the woman. | |||
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Has Achieved Nirvana |
My issue is not that I am not equally responsible for the work that needs to be done. My issue has always been this ... who defines what needs to be done? I'm willing to participate equally in the work that I feel needs to be done, but perhaps my standards are such that I don't feel that quite as much needs to be done. So, at least in my case, your comment about the default housekeeper/baby watcher is off the mark. For me, it's more a question of how you decide (or who decides) what needs to be done and what the standards are. | |||
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"One half of me is a hopeless romantic, the other half is so damn realistic." Beatification Candidate |
Of course, you could just live in squalor like we do. We never fight about anything, but I'm not so sure it's a better life. | |||
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What Life? |
He has been doing better . Last night I only had one class meaning I drove 45 minutes there, sat in a pointless lecture from Chase bank for 50 minutes and then drove the 75 minutes in traffic home. While I was gone SM Sr. threw some laundry in the wash, threw the baby in the bathtub, and prepped for dinner so all i had to do was cook everything and put it on the table . Then I read my textbook at the kitchen counter while he cleaned up from dinner | |||
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